I have been so busy researching and making appointments for what Steve and I think is the best way forward for Chris that we have been guilty of not properly asking him.

When we did ask him it was not the answer we were expecting…
Chris wants to have the surgery.

This really shocked me as I have focused all my efforts on avoiding surgery.  But given the situation we are now in and the size of Chris’s curve (58.9 degrees) he wants to have it straightened.  And his reasons are entirely valid:

He wants his back and spine to look ‘normal’.
He doesn’t want to have do exercises morning and night for another 3 to 4 years.
He doesn’t want to have to wear a brace 23 hours a day for 3 to 4 years.
He doesn’t want to go to a residential Schroth clinic and exercise every day.
He just wants to get it fixed.

And I have to accept what he wants because it is his body and his life that will be affected. I am now even more grateful that we have our appointment on Friday with the surgeon as he can answer Chris’s questions about what the surgery would mean for him.

I find myself thinking: “Don’t ask the question if you don’t want to know the answer!” but I am so glad we did ask because now we can all work towards the outcome that Chris wants…which is to be ‘fixed’ as soon as possible.